We all face challenges both big and small on a fairly consistent basis. How can we adjust our mindsets in order to better face these obstacles and increase our own resiliency? Read on to learn some tips about how you can work on becoming more resilient!
by Madison Wright
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines resilience as “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.” The term seems simple enough when described in those terms; however, resilience is far more complex than words can ever manage to define. According to the American Psychological Association, resilience is not just an ability that you do or do not have. Resilience is the product of every individual’s actions, behaviors and thoughts; therefore, resilience is a part of everyone and can be cultivated in anyone.
It sounds like a sweet deal, having no problem adjusting to adversity, but it’s not like a person can be completely unaffected by hard times. The key to resilience is how these events are interpreted and having a support system in place to be able to experience a difficult event and still be affected by it, but be able to cope with it in a healthy manner. So how do you develop resilience?
According to the American Psychological Association, there are ten ways you can develop your own resilience:
- Make connections
- Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems
- Accept that change is a part of living
- Move toward your goals
- Take decisive actions
- Look for opportunities for self-discovery
- Nurture a positive view of yourself
- Keep things in perspective
- Maintain a hopeful outlook
- Take care of yourself
Ten ways might seem like a lot, but everyone is different so it is best to just pick out what you think would work for you or even pick one out if you think it’s something you could work on. You might not even realize that you already do some of these things in your day to day life, so another important step is giving yourself credit for the work you already do for yourself!
If you think you will have trouble getting started, here’s some first steps to these tips. If you want to make connections, join a club or student organization. Is there any hobby you’ve been wanting to pick up? Odds are, there’s a club for it and you could make friends or even find a mentor to support you. If you want to move towards your goals, the first step is making them. Draft down a few goals and revisit them once a month to see where you are in terms of achieving them. If you want to nurture a positive view of you yourself, talk to yourself like you’d talk to a loved one. You wouldn’t want someone speaking critical of someone you love, so be there for yourself and be kind with your own criticism. Then, take care of yourself! This can be anything you want it to be. If you need the day off, give yourself the day off. If you feel like laying in bed to just watch Netflix, then do just that. Everyone deserves time to themselves to just do what you want to do for a change. So take care of yourself and build the resilience that’s in you!
Source cited: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/road-resilience.aspx