Having a friend who cuts you down or makes you feel bad about yourself can be a terrible and damaging experience. However, how do you know when to reach out to a friend and fix things, or when to say enough is enough and preserve your own self esteem? In this article, Peer Educator, Madison discusses some helpful tips about how and when to end a friendship. And be sure to check out the link at the bottom too!
When to End a Friendship
by Madison Wright
Why is it more common to hear about break ups in romantic relationships than friendships? Most people have significantly more friendships in their lifetime than they do romantic relationships, yet you don’t hear people going to their loved ones asking for advice on how to break things off with a friend. Is it more acceptable to put up with toxic behaviors from friends than it is from partners? I don’t think so. I would never stay with a partner who treats me badly, yet I forgive friends time after time for similar behavior. A large part of any relationship is communication, so it’s important to communicate your feelings and boundaries to friends. At that point it is up to the other person to respect how you feel and your wishes or disregard them in hopes that you will make exceptions for them. Exceptions for friends you trust are normal and usually harmless, but for friends who violate your trust and continuously cross boundaries, it may be time to reflect on whether that friendship is worth keeping. Examples of actions that reflect a lack of trust and respect are provided in the link below. Every relationship is different, but if you are thinking of ending a relationship remember that you should always put your best interest first. Ending a friendship is never easy, but it also provides you the opportunity to establish new, positive relationships.